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Behind the 8 Ball

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Instead of waiting for the day when you can say, "I don't care," release the pain today by saying, "I care. I'm just not going to let it bother me anymore." If it's not up to you to change something, then the only thing you'll do by being upset about it, is be upset about it. Instead, try to figure out something that you CAN do, independent of anyone else's decision or power. If you can't think of anything, then focus on other things that are positive, and only deal with this when it needs to be dealt with, which is not 24/7. By Doe Zantamata

Worlds connect, worlds collide

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Worlds connect, or worlds collide. Cherish, and give priority to your connections. Remove, or distance yourself from your collisions. ~Doe Zantamata In each of us, a world exists. It is made up of all of our experiences, our family, friends, thoughts, hopes and dreams. When two worlds meet, it is either a connection or a collision. Connections are those who we find ourselves smiling when we just think of them. They brighten our days, and we brighten theirs. They encourage and inspire us to be the best versions of ourselves. They strengthen our other connections, as we become happier, more confident people. They strengthen us. Collisions do the opposite. The mention of their name can turn a smile into a frown, and cause an inner panic. They cast a cloud over the sunniest days. They discourage us, and the only things they inspire in us are doubts and fears. They bring out our insecurities, and make it very difficult for us to be happy around them.

It's about time.

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It's About Time - By Doe Zantamata There are almost 7 Billion people in the world. If you were to spend only one minute with each person, it would take you 13,307 years to meet everyone. If you live 80 years, from the moment you were born until the moment you passed, you could only spend one minute each with 42 million people. A billion is a thousand million. You'd never meet but a handful of the world's total population. So how many extra minutes are you going to spend in relationships or with friends who don't appreciate you? And how lucky are you when you meet and know friends and have relationships who truly value you? What are the odds that you would ever even meet? Whoever said "Life is short" wasn't kidding. If you're lucky enough to know people who love you and treat you well, always make time for them. If you don't know people like that yet, get out there and meet them...time's a wastin.'

Getting over an ex ...remember

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If you really want to get over an ex-relationship, stop holding on to what you wish could have been, and remember how it really was. Fall out of love with past potential, and realize it wasn't right, and you are better off out of that relationship. If they could have done that or would have done that, they would be a different person...one who you have not met yet, but may meet in the future. ~Doe Zantamata

Breaking up with love

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 When you break up with someone, sometimes it doesn’t mean that you don’t love them anymore. Sometimes, it means that you love them enough to let them go because you want them to be happy, and you realized that you’re just not able to be happy together. ~Doe Zantamata Have you ever known a couple where you really like to spend time with them individually, but you really can't stand to be around them when they are together? For some reason, some great people bring out the worst in each other. They love each other, but just can't get along. Sometimes counseling helps, or it was just a stressful time because of outside influences, but other times, no matter what they do, the relationship just doesn't work. Often, we think that as long as we love someone, we should keep on trying to make it work, to be with them. But this isn't always true. Recognizing that you're either just too different, or that you just can't get along, the demonstration of mo

The Big Day - Too late or too soon?

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A month or so after a break up, you will either: 1. Feel like maybe you should have given it another chance, a little more time -or- 2. Wonder why on earth you waited so long. (Oh that hindsight is so very 20/20!) Whichever it is, please realize, that there is no “perfect day” to break up. You will either feel one of these two things. The most important thing is to move on with no regrets. Emotions and relationships are not linear...you have good days, bad days, a good week, a bad month...this is why it’s so difficult to tell when it’s a rough patch or just a rough relationship. Wherever you are in a breakup, if you feel you need to give it another chance, then give it another chance. However, know that you may end up in Category 2 afterwards. That’s not the end of the world. Category 2 is actually easier to put behind you. You know that you tried EVERYTHING you could, and it wasn’t meant to be. Just let yourself off the hook if you haven’t yet. You were not stupid,

Special Things

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Just because someone doesn’t take care of special things, or appreciate them as much as they should, it doesn’t mean that those things are not really special. All it means is that someone shouldn’t have the privilege of having them anymore. ~Doe Zantamata