BreakupLife.com - by Doe Zantamata

It would have been a great relationship if he had been more considerate, if he had made you more of a priority, if he'd been much more honest, and if he had been much more kind. But if he'd have been all those things, he'd have been a different person. So accept him as he is and let him go. That will make room in your life for the person who is all those things because he chooses to be, not because you wish he would become them. ~Doe Zantamata

Guilt is a powerful motivator. It holds people trapped in places they don't want to be. It will eventually be fulfilled by resentment over a feeling of wasted time. No one really wants to hold you against your will, but they may not realize they're holding on out of fear instead of letting go with love. When you realize you're facing either certain unhappiness or the chance at possible happiness, the decision becomes much more clear. What's best for the long term isn't always what's easiest in the short term. Follow your heart. -Doe Zantamata

First bliss comes naturally. Second bliss is a choice. It's the choice to trust, to love, to put yourself out there, knowing full well that you can get hurt. But you won't be able to live, love, and experience all the joys of life if you don't put yourself back out there again. It takes courage --a lot of courage-- but it's worth it. ~Doe Zantamata

An apology doesn't come with an eraser. Forgiveness doesn't mean memory loss. Once the house of trust is broken, it has to be rebuilt. Things aren't the way they were before, and they may not be for some time. If the person who wasn't truthful isn't willing to be patient and open to rebuild broken trust, then it may not be possible to rebuild. ~Doe Zantamata

Red Flag: "You are amazing. I am so grateful to have you" are good compliments which show that a person recognizes your worth. "You're too good for me" is not a compliment. It's a red flag from someone who doesn't feel that they are good enough for you. For you to make sense in their world, they will begin to look for things that are wrong with you and point them out. This can be quite upsetting, as you'll go from someone who could do no wrong to someone who can do no right. Even the tiniest, most unimportant things will be criticized. Insecurity causes envy, spite, and being critical of others. You can't fix them, but you can avoid having your self-worth attacked by choosing not to pursue a relationship any further. ~Doe Zantamata

If you ever look back on a relationship and think, "What did I see in that person??" It could be that your mind saw a challenge, it could be that your heart thought it saw love, or  it could be that your soul recognized an excellent teacher of self-worth. ~Doe Zantamata

Close your eyes for a few minutes, and think of a situation or relationship that’s been troubling you. Imagine letting that relationship go. Do you feel regret, or relief? Use your answer to determine if it’s time to try something different to fix it, or if it’s just time to try something different. ~Doe Zantamata