BreakupLife.com - by Doe Zantamata

You cannot receive true love until you love yourself first. We see only a reflection of ourselves in other people. You will only accept the love that you feel inside. If you don’t love yourself, you will think it’s love when someone treats you poorly, even though in your mind you may know you should be treated better. If you were treated better, you would lose interest because it would not match the feeling you have inside. We reject anything more than we feel we truly deserve. Love yourself, accept yourself, and you will no longer be attracted to those who don’t treat you with love and kindness. Feel love, receive love. ~Doe Zantamata

Finding out that you trusted someone who lied to you, cheated you, or otherwise deceived you, hurts. A lot. But don’t blame yourself for “not seeing the signs.”Thinking you’re stupid for trusting someone is like thinking someone is smart for not trusting someone. Neither is true. Mistrust for no reason has ruined a lot of perfectly good relationships. If anything, that’s stupid. All you can do is your best, and your best is to trust someone until they’ve given you reason not to. If they mess that up, it’s their loss. Trust is a wonderful thing. Never punish yourself for being wonderful. ~Doe Zantamata

I can't tell you when, but I can promise you, it will get better, it will get easier, and it will all be worthwhile. Just promise me you won't ever give up.

Don't waste time trying to convince someone that they will regret losing you if they don't treat you better. The only time they will really believe you, is when they actually do. ~Doe Zantamata

It's not that I don't care anymore, it's just that I'm choosing to focus instead on other things. Things that don't bother me. Things that allow me to be happy. ~Doe Zantamata Even after you've sorted through all your feelings. Even after you realize that the relationship wasn't right for you, even after you realize it's best that it ended....you'll likely still not be "over it" for awhile. You didn't go from being 100% happy and content in the relationship to unhappy, and you won't be able to go from 100% unhappy and discontent being single to being happy. Emotions don't work that way. You'll still get little triggers of memories out of the blue that when you think about them this time, you'll reflect and think differently. You may even feel some anger today about a memory from the past where no anger was felt at the time. Be patient with yourself. Allow your mind and your heart to go through this proces...

Some relationships shine a bright light into the treasures of our souls. When in love, little things in life don't bring us down, and we feel we can do more, accomplish more, be more. If those type of relationships change or end, we may feel lost without the love of that person. What's important to realize, is that they were never the actual treasures which made us feel better, they were only shining a light on the treasures we already are. Find your own light, and you can always be that positive, happy, loving person. When you find it within yourself, no one can take it away. ~Doe Zantamata From the Book One Page Stories, Volume One, By Doe Zantamata - on Amazon: http://tinyurl.com/73m9zxl

The mind struggles to understand what the heart already knows. ~Doe Zantamata